A Little Less Assuming, A Little More Listening
In many instances of our lives, we may have extended a helping hand to those we perceived to be in need, stepping in with the sincere belief that our efforts would bring them some relief. Sometimes it would be out of a sense of duty or simply out of sheer kindness and empathy. And that is a good thing. The world is a better place with some love and warmth around us. We have some preconceived notions about what exactly is good for others. Our family, our acquaintances, our kids, friends and everyone we hold close. We have some presumptions about their wants, cravings, desires and wishes. And we arrive at what we consider is the best solution. But what if that’s not the case. We often overlook what people are asking for. Even if they have said it plainly. We miss the point. The point where they felt unsafe, the moment where they needed space or the time when they told you they were hurting. We tend to notice and interpret information in ways that fit what we already believe. I...