The Perks of Having a Canny Friend

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Friends are an indispensable part of life. Some of them are truly special and the relationships last beautifully for decades. It is an absolute fortune to have pals that match your wavelength and your vibes. But what if I tell you, that absolute opposites can also share an amazing bond.

I have this one long-term friend, an incredibly canny one. We were in the same academic institution for a very long time but never crossed paths. Finally one day, we were destined to meet and were amused to realise that we had never met each other before. 

However, there was absolutely nothing in common between us. We do not share the same interests, principles, or belief system. One had a courtly demeanour and dealt with things tactfully. While the other was overzealous and straightforward. Despite our contrasting personalities, the camaraderie has helped us attain a calmer, mature and balanced comportment.

Even in different stages of life, this friendship has proved to be a reliable one. When I hit rock bottom, I received help unsolicited and a free-of-cost therapist. It's during these critical junctures that friends step into the role of mentors and pacifiers.

My mom is well acquainted with the antics of my mate and never fails to bring them up in family discussions. She often reminds me about our bygone days of mischief and mayhem. 


                               


Even today, I take advice from my buddy for inscrutable situations where I really cannot gauge the other person's intentions. And I affirm that such an individual is paramount in everybody's life. Their twisted thinking capabilities are amazing and 100 percent accurate. They are absolutely trustworthy and their intuition levels are spot on.

Also, these pals can be your ardent supporters and brutal critics simultaneously. Their honesty can be sometimes intimidating and yet you hold their opinions in high regard because you know they have your best interests at heart.

As the saying goes, ‘A friend in need is a friend indeed’. We learn this quote early on, but we experience what it stands for as we traverse through life. Long-term friends are precious gems to hold onto because they have witnessed multiple versions of you and loved you unconditionally through all of it.

Anyways, years passed by and we never lost contact. Even after long periods apart, reconnecting feels effortless, like picking up a conversation as if it were from the day before.

Presently, we live in different cities but send memes and reels every day to stay connected. How the times have changed!!

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  1. Anonymous2 March 2024 at 22:47

    It is well written and one can feel the emotion that is poured out in words about friendship❤️

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